It is not plagiarizing if I give credit for this column's name to Karen Meister. Moreover, you can't copyright a title.
On Nov. 11, my wife had stomach bypass surgery. The main reason she had it is that she has type 2 diabetes that she does not properly manage. This surgery typically cures type 2 diabetes.
In 2009, I had lap band surgery. I was the guinea pig for her. (If you don't believe me, ask her.) It is a similar but different surgery. I do not have diabetes and it does not run in my family. However, I have spent a lifetime being significantly over weight. I went on my first diet when I was in fourth-grade.
When I had my surgery, I lost nearly 50 pounds in a few months. However, after that, I stabilized. During 2010, I attended every fish fry, chicken dinner, festival, and gathering of friends I could find. I gained 25 pounds back.
I have never written about this before because you can't let people know that you have failed at things when you are trying to become a public figure. Heaven help you if you have failings.
My wife and I are excited about our futures. Yvette's sugar is already showing signs of regulating and her levels are dropping toward the normal range. Her surgeon predicted that she would lose approximately 50 pounds by New Year's Day, that she will no longer be diabetic, and that she will no longer have sleep apnea.
I believe that I will finally be successful in my battle with obesity for the first time in my life now. For the first time in our married life, we are both playing on the same team when it comes to weight loss. Since the first week of November, I have already lost 10 pounds.
For each of us, as we were going through the yearlong pre-surgical preparation, we were told that this surgery is not brain surgery. It would not change our mental and emotional attitudes toward food. That is absolutely the case for me. With an Italian father and a mother from New Orleans, the enjoyment of food has been part of living a quality life. I know a couple of people who approach eating they way they approach putting fuel in their car; so much protein, so much carb, etc. I have gone back and forth on whether I admire them or feel sorry for them.
My wife, however, has had a complete transformation. She has absolutely no desire to eat. She has to remind herself to have a meal. She recently saw a pizza commercial on television. She told me her thoughts were, "Hmm, I wonder if ... nah, I'm not interested."
What may be completely obvious to everyone around you may be difficult for you to see when looking though your own eyes. Yvette is now in control of food. It is not in control of her. Food has been in control of me. Now, she is helping me approach food in the same way that she does.
Because I have a band around the top of my stomach, unlike hers, which has been surgically made smaller, it is easy for me to "cheat." Drinking any fluid with food will wash the food from the small upper portion of my stomach into the remainder of my stomach allowing me to eat more. Working together as a team, I am starting to get my mind right and finally be in control.
I will probably update you on things as they progress. However, whether I do or not, my success or failure should be obvious to anyone who sees me.
Stomach by-pass surgery is definitely not right for everyone. However, if you think it may be right for you, I suggest looking into it carefully. It was the right choice for Yvette.