I’ve been working up to it for two months, and I’m pleased to announce that today, I successfully finished my first cup of coffee! Without sugar! I think I’m finally a grown up.
I’ve always felt like I was missing out by not drinking coffee, and I finally grew weary of rejecting the cups offered to me, so I set out on a mission to acquire the taste.
If one wants to achieve a goal, it is important to equip oneself with the proper tools. So, I went to Target and picked up a coffee maker, three types of coffee, and various flavored creamers. Since the goal was to drink coffee whenever it is offered to me by others, I didn’t want to become dependent on certain flavors. But it was important to have a palatable starting point.
Unfortunately, I got completely hooked on iced coffee with loads of cream and sweetener, which sort of defeated the purpose. However, the coffee flavor must have come through because today was the day!
See, the thing is, in our culture, offering someone a cup of coffee is a sign of hospitality and respect. It says, “I enjoy your company, and I’d like to spend a bit of time engaging in conversation with you.”
I suppose sometimes it is offered from a sense of obligation, but I’ve never felt that from the people who have offered it to me.
Throughout the years, as I’ve rejected cup after cup, I’ve felt as though I were saying no to something deeper. I was rejecting tradition, communication, and a moment shared with a valuable human being.
In effort to facilitate those moments, I would often ask for tea instead. Many people obliged, but it changed the dynamic. Suddenly, instead of relaxing in the familiar, they were scrambling to produce a tea bag and hot water. I had a keen sense that my asking for something different from the norm was taking away from the overall experience.
So, this morning, for the first time, when I was offered a cup of coffee, I simply responded, “Yes, thank you.”
Within seconds, a warm cup was thrust into my hands, and I was curled up on a couch, watching snow gather on the window panes of a one-hundred-sixty-year-old farmhouse, while engrossed in conversation about writing, and politics, and the perils of aging. Before I knew it, I had added three new words to my “list of words I need to look up,” and I had finished the entire cup.
I guess what it boils down to is that coffee equates to time, and time is a valuable resource. When someone offers you their time, that means they believe you have value. In today’s fast paced society, where the majority of our interactions take place digitally, offers of coffee should not be taken lightly. They should be taken with cream, and perhaps a bit of sugar.
Ginger Claremohr is an author, motivational speaker, and mother of five. Follow her on Facebook (Ginger Claremohr-Author), find her on the web: www.claremohr.com, or contact firstname.lastname@example.org.