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Coping with loss

Monday, October 12, 2009

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"We Love You Halie" is posted on the sign at the Brazil Dairy Queen. [Order this photo]
* NHS students, faculty dealing with recent tragedy

Members of the Northview High School Marching Knights took the field at Center Grove High School Saturday evening with heavy hearts.

Despite considering canceling the performance following the death of a band member, NMK staff and students elected to perform.

"We've lost kids in the past that we've been associated with," Northview band director Bob Medworth said. "But in my 32 years, I've never been through this."

The Marching Knights lost one of their own Thursday evening when 15-year-old Halie Hite, a guard members, was tragically killed in an automobile accident.

Fighting back tears on Sunday, Medworth said the death was "shocking."

The school elected to postpone its home football game from Friday to Saturday following the tragedy.

The band was scheduled to perform during the football game, but following the news, Medworth said the first thought that went through his mind was to cancel not only the performance at the football game, but the Marching Knights' performance at the Cavalcade of Champions at Center Grove Saturday.

"When it first happened, we didn't know what to do," Medworth said. "There's no band director guide to handle this."

However, Medworth said the students in the band wanted to perform in Halie's memory.

"The kids said that right away," he said.

Officials at Northview opened the school Thursday evening following the accident.

Medworth said band students went to the band room and sat there in disbelief.

He added coming to school Friday was not easy.

"At times, I heard kids crying in the middle of practice," he said. "That was hard to take."

Medworth said someone contacted the Clay County Humane Society and three puppies were brought to the school, which helped with the healing process.

As NMK staff attempted to find a way to help the students get through the ordeal, they witnessed how resilient the students were.

"We talked about how everyone grieves in a different way," Ruth Ann Medworth said. "But the kids want to be together."

"They figured out a way to get through it," Bob Medworth added.

During the Knights' home football game Saturday, players wore a sticker on their helmets in honor of Halie, who was also a freshmen cheerleader.

In addition, the band will wear armbands the rest of the year in her memory and members of the guard will wear hearts on their outfits.

Ruth Ann added Halie's spot in the show would remain empty for the rest of the year. But some things in the Marching Knights' show will be rearranged.

"We have to figure out a way to help them," Ruth Ann said.

Following performing at the football game Saturday, the Marching Knights made their way to Center Grove for an evening performance. The band came away with a victory, scoring an 80.50 while also winning awards for Music, General Effect and People's Choice.

"It was painful Saturday," Ruth Ann said. "We were running on adrenaline. The hurt was unbelievable."

But other bands helped the Knights get through the evening.

"Other bands gave cards and some had posters," Bob said, adding the drum majors with Avon created a three-ring binder of pictures from past Marching Knights' performances, which also included pictures of Halie.

"They did that on their own," Bob said.

Ruth Ann said Halie was also a member of the NMK guard while she was in middle school.

"She was a pretty seasoned performer," Ruth Ann said. "And she was an excellent cheerleader. I was looking forward to (working) with her. She was a fun girl.

"She was very outgoing and nice. She didn't know a stranger. She had confidence."

Bob said the plan currently is to keep moving forward.

"We've just got to go on," he said. "There will be more crying. This is a horrible part of life that we all go through at some level."

"We'll kind of take the kids' lead," Ruth Ann added.


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I am so very proud of the students in the band for deciding to go on with the performance. I'm sure that is exactly what Halie would have wanted. Such a beautiful young girl and a great person to know. I will miss her. She has been to my home more than once. I am so happy that the band brought home 1st place. That is great.

-- Posted by GrannyMae on Tue, Oct 13, 2009, at 1:37 AM

I am very proud to be a parents of a Northview football player. As a parent, I would like to thank Kathy Silvers for staying up late and making the team all their own arm band for Halie! The boys all looked at Halie as "their little sister" and it showed as they passed by her on Sunday. This is why they are a great team, they hold each other up in times like this, they are strong!! Halie will always hold a special place in our hearts when we see the cheerleaders smile again we will all be reminded of Halie's beautiful smile! Rest in peace little Halie!

-- Posted by momof2brightones on Tue, Oct 13, 2009, at 7:40 AM

I am a northview high school student who lived close to Halie but I didn't really talk to her and I regret it. She always smiled and made her friends laugh and waved and yelled "HEY!" to anyone who knew her. I just want the hite family to know that if they need anything to give me a call

-- Posted by WeLoveYouHalie on Tue, Oct 13, 2009, at 8:52 AM

I did not know Halie or her family. But I went to the funeral to be of service to our community during this obvious tragic loss. My heart is broken for the parents. I was impressed by everything that was said. She sure was a great young lady. For a Freshman, to have such influence on Mr. Med and all the kids that showed up, were deeply saddened by the loss of this wonderful friend.

Mr. Med, challenged all of us to honor her, with respect and attitudes. Those who know the family, do not stay away, they need your support. God bless you all.

-- Posted by Conservative Dad on Tue, Oct 13, 2009, at 1:43 PM

ya my name is samantha i am a student at northveiw and me and halie were actually really close i just cant beleive that this could happen to such a beautiful girl like halie. i just want everyone to know that she is in my prayers and heart for ever and will never be forgotten at northveiw.We Love You Halie.9/10/94-10/8/09

-- Posted by foxychick2013@yahoo.com on Wed, Oct 14, 2009, at 1:35 PM

I cant believe this happend to a beutiful young girl like halie. it is so hard to talk about. i just hope her family is doing well. R.I.P Halie Hite

-- Posted by northviewboy_2009 on Wed, Oct 14, 2009, at 2:07 PM

Halie I cant believe you left so soon I loved you so much you were the best friend I ever had WHY GOD WHY

-- Posted by WeLoveYouHalie on Wed, Oct 14, 2009, at 2:19 PM

umm, sorry to say this but exactly how can you type this and I am quoting you ...

"I am a northview high school student who lived close to Halie but I didn't really talk to her and I regret it."

then turn around and type this

"Halie I cant believe you left so soon I loved you so much you were the best friend I ever had WHY GOD WHY"

????

Why dont you just STOP!! Childish melodrama for attention isnt helping anyone...

-- Posted by Simpletruths on Wed, Oct 14, 2009, at 4:46 PM

Simpletruths

I completely agree with you. That is a slap in the face to the people who really knew her and loved her. She was one of my son's best friends and I spent most of the summer with her. I knew her, I talked to her, shared memories with her, and talked about the future with her. I KNEW HER. So therefore I can say I love you Halie and will miss your little "SPUNKY" attitude.

-- Posted by time2growup on Wed, Oct 14, 2009, at 8:18 PM

I am not sure what comment you read but it just read that they lived close like maybe neighbors and that they regret not getting to know her. Dont be petty on here and negate what others say because writing down your thoughts is a great way to deal with the grieving process. There is not a day that goes by that I dont write something down because it helps me out. She touched so many peoples' lives and it was quite evident at the services. I want to thank everyone who came to pay their respects on behalf of the family. Love your children and spend every moment you possibly can with them because you never know when your last moment may be. God Bless Halie! Love you dearly and miss you very much! Keep shining down on us to make sure we are doing what we need to be doing. Keep us in line girlie!!

-- Posted by srdd on Thu, Oct 15, 2009, at 7:56 AM

I agree with srdd, why do some people have to be negative on such a serious issue. My rule has been proven once again "Adults screw it up for the kids" (it mainly applies to youth sports). Nice example.

Of course you are correct in your post. But leave it alone. It is not a contest to see who miss her the most. Her parents already won that one. God bless.

-- Posted by Conservative Dad on Fri, Oct 16, 2009, at 5:11 PM


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